I see so many men and women complaining that they are alone and never get lucky finding someone to love. I want to smack the crap out of people when they say that. They’re setting themselves up for failure with an attitude like that. If you think there’s nobody for you, you’re going to be right on the money.

I love this poem about life that I think puts it all into perspective. If you don’t ask for what you want and you settle for what you get, then don’t complain. If you want someone new in your life, he or she is there for you, you just have to have confidence and belief in yourself that you’re desirable and worthy of being loved.

“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.
“For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
“I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”
Jessie Belle Rittenhouse

Close your eyes and can you see yourself with someone new? Once you can do that, you’ve got the desire and it will happen. I don’t know how or where but I do know that the right person will come into your life.

If you’ve been wondering how to attract that dreamy guy at the tennis club or the cute chick that’s always at the bar for Friday night drinks, you have all the tools right in your mouth.

Flirting has always begun with a smile.

You look at them, you smile, they smile back, you look away. Then you catch eyes again and they smile, you smile in return and then look away.

On the third time you look at each other, make a very tiny smile, no teeth but continue looking at them all the while talking to them mentally. A small wave can’t go wrong at this point and then it’s up to the man to come to the woman. That’s just how it is.

Men might say they like to wait for the woman to come to them, but in reality it’s all about the chase. Men chase until the women catch them. It’s been like this since the days of the caveman.

Don’t sue me if it doesn’t work, but it has always worked for me!