You all know that I run the dating site at SexyAds.com so it should be no surprise that I come across some strange folks occasionally. Ok, maybe too occasionally if that’s possible. When people visit our site and get lucky or make new friends, we rarely hear from them but if someone can’t get an email or another member has insulted them or their computer crashes - watch out!

I WAS watching out but it happened anyway. Yesterday I got the strangest email from a member who was really not very happy. He ranted and raved and bitched and whined and grumbled for about 20 minutes of reading. His email had no paragraphs either so it was next to impossible to read with all the words running together. The grammar and spelling were wacko too but I’ve learned to read bad grammar, spelling and typo is just another language to me.

What was he upset about? He was really angry that he had to pay to video chat with sexy young things by the minute and what a horrible site we were to entice people to join only to make them pay for something they didn’t want in the first place.

How could we sleep at night, he wanted to know!

He wanted to chat with real women and he didn’t mind if he had to pay for that as a monthly fee, that seemed fair to him, but to ask him to pay by the minute for sex chat with some woman who wasn’t interested in anything but the money screamed to him of our greed and stupidity.

The more I read, the more I laughed.

By the time I finished with that tirade, my belly ached from laughing.

Why?

We don’t offer pay by minute video chat with sexy young things! We think it’s stupid too! We wanted a site where real people, warts and all, could meet other people for a good time, great relationships and companionship, on or off-line.

So, rubbing my hands together for encouragement, I wrote back to this guy and explained that he had mixed us up with another site he was probably a member of. Adult Friend Finder offers chat with sexy young things and several other sites do too, but we don’t have pay by minute chat, never have had it and never will have it. It’s just not our model. No judgements really; it’s just something that doesn’t fit with our older crowd of people.

I expected him to apologize and thank me. But that would have meant that the world is a good place and Mr. Shitty is not from there.

“Oh no,” he said, “You’re wrong.”

Obviously I was new at SexyAds because he was asked to pay by the minute for video chat with his choice of quite a few young women. I’ll not list all the bad words and how my ass is where my head should be and that I’m so stupid I shouldn’t be allowed out without a leash and he should tell my employers that they had hired a dumbass. (Sorry, Mr. Shitty, I own the joint and my employer is me and I think I’m pretty wonderful, thank you very much.)

I’m obviously a glutton for punishment because I wrote back. I thanked him for the email and said I’d pass it on to my employer (no sense giving him too much information!) and asked him to find the page that asked for the pay by minute video chat and send me the URL at the top of the page and I’d take it to my boss and find out what I had been so wrong about.

Yep, he sent it and what’s the url? It started with adultfriendfinder.com but I couldn’t get in because he gave me a url from within their site that needed a login and password.

I wrote back and said that every page on our site started out with sexyads and that adult friend finder was a totally different site run by totally different people targeting a younger crowd than we did. If he could find that information on one of our pages, we’d be happy to look into it but we were sorry he had confused the two sites.

Umm.. wouldn’t you look at the top of the screen if you were going to write and complain? He must have had both sites open at once and probably more than one window on each site and got confused as to where he was.

Did Mr. Shitty write back? No! Maybe he’s still paying by the minute to chat to some hottie who says she’s in California but she’s really in the Philippines.

Here’s Leanne, our affiliate manager, admiring her handiwork. It would be much more impressive if there were actually some people on this gorgeous beach who’d see the domain name! Can’t fault her for trying something different.

This week we have 2 guests from Australia visiting and working with us. For those of you familiar with SexyAds.com you’ll know Leanne, our affiliate manager, and Karen, one of the support staff. We’re going to have a marketing and promotion brainstorming session starting Monday morning. Think good thoughts that we’ll come up with some quirky and effective campaigns.

We want to continue to brand SexyAds as an adult fun place that’s not a porn site. Like a Cosmo for dating. Sexy, interesting and fun. Lots of dating sites with adult content, that frankly earn a lot more money than we do, put their emphasis more on the x-rated photos and pay per minute video chat with models. We’ve always tried to keep the site for adults who consider sex to be a big part of any relationship.

Today we played tourist and went to Paihia, the tourist mecca in the far north of the north island in New Zealand. We took a ferry to Russell and had fish and chips while sitting on the beach watching all the boats go by. Then we went shopping. What else do three women do when they’re out together?

I’ll be posting this week but mostly I’ll be helping them come up with a plan for success in 2008. Wish us luck!