Women talking about sex
I know I was born in the first half of the last century (holy cow that sounds old) and perhaps my friends and I have a very different perspective about sexual issues than say a women of 24 might have. I know I would never discuss my personal sexuality with my friends other than in general terms.
However, through my work on SexyAds.com and other places around the net, I find women who will tell everything right down to the smallest detail. There is a group who will say that this kind of talk will lead to the destruction of our society because the Bible says it’s wrong. The Bible talks about concubines but I’d venture a thought that the local pastor wouldn’t approve.
No, I think we should use what’s important to us and let our own internal guidance system lead us in what’s right and wrong. My own personal belief, so don’t waste your time being crappy in the comments.
There is also another group who believe much differently. They feel the sexual openness and information that the Internet has brought about and they’re happy about it.
One woman who’s about 45 now says that before she got online and started playing on adult chatrooms and forums, she’d only ever had sex in the missionary position and thought it was always supposed to hurt. It was a curse that women had to bear, just like the pain of childbirth. After talking with women who reported how much they enjoyed sex, she realized that maybe the problem was not sex but her own body.
After some searching, she found that the soap she was using to wash the vulvar area was causing real pain. Using a harsh soap can affect the area much like getting soap in your eye. So she switched to using plain water and within weeks she was looking forward to having sex with her husband.
Another woman on the more mature side confided to a group of women that she had always held a secret fetish about spanking and felt dirty whenever she gave thought to it. What a blessing when she found out she wasn’t alone. There are many women who are really into domestic discipline. She moved from feeling dirty to feeling normal.
We are sexual beings. That’s how we keep the human race going. We’re designed to crave sex and there’s nothing wrong with that. Of course we need to be safe and the Internet helps there with up-to-date information on sexually transmitted diseases, condom use and AIDS. Learn all you can and have a great time.
I’m one of those more mature women. I think that some frank sex discussion among women is important. I think that keeping it under wraps or behind closed doors is what either glamorizes some of it, or makes it powerful. Sex is part of life and informed decisions are always best. When you are naked isn’t the best time to talk about what you will and will not do. Great Blog! Keep it up.
I really enjoyed this post and as with a lot of things, the more you talk about things the less of an issue it is.
I enjoyed that post. I too am a mature older Woman with a very fulfilling sex life. I have been married for 34 years. The biggest thing you can do to have a great sexual relationship is to have open communication. I can talk to my hubby about ANYTHING! and he will listen. Or try if that is what I want lol. One of the best things ever was the Vagina Monologues. If you have never watched it you must! It is awesome.
I agree to, but it is something that alot of times has to be overcome because of the stigma to it. It’s amazing how we shun sex in our society, but it’s so okay to watch people get their heads blown off. If we found our 17 year olds watching porn, we’d say..”OH THE HORROR” but do we think twice about them watching movies such as SAW and Freddy Krueger?
I am more woried about the bible thumpers than I am talking about my sexuality. I hope that talking about sex comes more open in our cultre as we progress as a society.